First, do no harm

I wish that when the founders were writing the constitution and the bill of rights that they had added a provision that could be looked at as “first, do no harm” or “primum non nocere” if you want to be fancy and use the Latin.

Think about what it would mean if we could apply that philosophy to some of the big issues of the day.

For example, you’re absolutely right that the Westboro Church has the First Amendment right to spew their hate and vitriol in the way that they do. But, what if we could show that because their speech causes mental harm to others. Could we use that as a test as to whether or not their speech should be allowed?

The same with the confederate flag. Yes, I know that those that fly it and think that it should be flown at statehouses, etc. consider it a part of their heritage and again their First Amendment right. But, shouldn’t their neighbors (whether their immediate neighbors in the personal sense or those that exist in the same city or state in the community sense) also be considered?

I could write a whole essay on how this applies to the Second Amendment. I completely understand why the Second Amendment was so important when the Constitution and the Bill of Rights was written. We are a country of revolutionaries and the Second Amendment was absolutely needed at the time. These were people that had suffered under British rule — including forced relocation.

I wonder if the founders had the gift of foresight and could have seen the guns that are available today and how they are being used if the Amendment would have been written in the same way.

When will be able to say that the current gun laws allow for more harm than protection?

Walking in fear

zebrasImagine walking around knowing that every step you take could potentially lead to a reaction that would cause excruciating pain. If you’ve ever broken a bone, this is the type of pain that you would experience.

That’s the fear that I face with every step — especially steps off curbs, stairs, or anything with a height imbalance. A simple trip can be disastrous. A slip on something wet can lead to months of immobility.

A few hours before writing this post, I slipped in the bathroom. The only thing that saved me from a full-on dislocation and subluxation was a quick grab onto the counter that kept me upright.

I’ve lately realized how much that fear has seeped into other areas of my life. I stay away from crowds because I don’t want someone to bump into me and throw one of my joints out of whack. I avoid walking in places that may have steps, curbs, or ledges. If I don’t know if an event — even if it’s just a birthday party — will be in an “accessible” location, I won’t attend.

When I was in Fargo a few months ago, more than one person mentioned that I use the word “can’t” too much.

I need to fix that.

 

 

Review: Six Wives by David Starkey

six wivesI just finished reading “Six Wives” by David Starkey. I’ve been obsessed lately with historical fiction about the Tudors and specifically about Henry VIII and his six wives.

Six Wives is not historical fiction, but purports itself to be “a study” of the history of these people.

The challenge is that after each wife was dead, Henry VIII and his aides obliterated the actual history of the women, so it’s hard to reconstruct that history.

The book is an interesting read. But, if you’re looking for an in-depth look at the wives — their personalities, their thoughts, etc. — this is not the book for you.

If you’re interested in an in-depth look at The Great Matter and what lead Henry VII to split away from the Catholic Church, this book does a pretty amazing job at that.

Commitment to blogging …

So, you may or may not have seen the post last week about me launching a new genealogy blog.

One of the new things about that blog is that I’m committing to posting something Monday – Friday.

Since genealogy is still mostly just a hobby and not making me any money, I wanted to find a schedule that would allow me to do this and yet not take up a huge chunk of time that wouldn’t be sustainable over time.

So, what I decided to do is break it down into different ideas for different days.

Mondays – I’m going to posting obituaries. Most of these that I post aren’t available online anywhere and will be a good opportunity for people to find the information online.

Tuesdays – This is going to be family day. I’m going to share what I know about the various surnames I’m tracing. This will start with Phillips, Berryman and Reed.

Wednesdays – This is one that is going to be the hardest as it’s the most “content-rich”. This is all going to be about discoveries made while doing genealogy research, how I do my research, how I organize my research, etc. It’s definitely the most time intensive of all 5, but hopefully will also be the most interesting.

Thursdays – I’m going to be doing a “rolling” calendar of genealogy / family history events. I’m hoping to include many on the Tennessee and Kentucky area, but also will include online webinars, national conferences and more.

Fridays – I read a lot about genealogy and family history and see a lot of different links on the topics. This will be my opportunity to share that information.

If you want to follow along, feel free to go check out the other blog — http://www.quickstartfamilyhistory.com.

Don’t Quit

DON'TTowards the end of my work day, I started to feel a bit unwell. I had a fairly busy weekend, with not a lot of rest, so this wasn’t entirely unexpected.

I decided a little post-work nap was needed, so I headed to bed to go read and rest for awhile.

Unfortunately, I couldn’t get my body to settle. For about an hourĀ or so, I would sleep for about 15 or 20 minutes and then need to get up and use the restroom. I hadn’t really had a lot to drink, so it was obvious that my body was trying to flush something out of my system. After 4 or 5 trips to the bathroom, my body finally settled down and I was able to get in a nap. It turned out to be a much longer nap than planned, but I din’t really have anything else to do I suppose.

When I woke up, I was feeling fairly defeated. However, within about 5 minutes a little diddy that has seen me through some very tough times popped in my head. This, along with the serenity prayer, were often my mantras in my teens and early 20s when things were at their worst.

It was just what I needed today and will hopefully be of some help to someone else.

By the way, after going to get something to eat, I’m writing this while sitting on my bike getting some exercise minutes in.

Don’t Quit by Edgar Guest

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
when the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
when the funds are low and the debts are high,
and you want to smile but you have to sigh,
when care is pressing you down a bit – rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns.
As everyone of us sometimes learns.
And many a fellow turns about when he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow – you may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than it seems to a faint and faltering man;

Often the struggler has given up when he might have captured the victor’s cup;
and he learned too late when the night came down,
how close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out – the silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
and when you never can tell how close you are,
it may be near when it seems afar;
so stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit – it’s when things seem worst, you must not quit.

Don’t take this one life for granted

This past week, the final Grateful Dead concerts have been all over my newsfeed – whether it was the ones in California or the ones in Chicago.

I’ve never been a Grateful Dead fan. No real reason, but I just never got into their music.

However, any mention of the Grateful Dead always conjures up a reminder of a good friend in college who died while travelling home from a concert.

I think of Dan Hallberg a lot. In fact, I’ve written about him on this blog more than once.

When I was driving around Kentucky over the weekend, some thoughts came together as to why he is frequently on my mind. Dan was an amazingly talented writer who also lived the life he was given to the fullest. Whenever I think about my writing or my art and whether or not it makes sense to keep trudging along, I think of Dan and the opportunity he doesn’t have to share his art with the world.

As my friend AJ Leon has frequently said, “This is not your practice life.” Go out there and share what makes you unique with the world.

Nicholas Winton: A true hero

A few years ago, I came across a documentary called The Power of Good: Nicholas Winton. While I had heard many stories about amazing things people did to rescue people from the Germans, this man’s efforts to get children out is absolutely amazing.

If you haven’t seen the documentary, it’s available on Netflix.

You can also watch a clip from 60 Minutes about the man here:

Nicholas Winton passed away yesterday at the age of 106.